Dear Future Lover,
I would like for you to know that I don’t expect the world. I don’t expect miracles or moved mountains from you. I realize we live in real life and not fairy tales, so I have realistic expectations. What I want most though, is matched effort. What I want is real. What I want doesn’t leave me lying in bed awake at night wondering what I mean to you.
In a relationship, I wish for humor and silliness to be a part of daily life. I expect to laugh and hope to make you laugh too because laughter is such an important part of life. If we can go to bed at night and giggle in the dark together before sleep sets in, I feel we are winning. It’s important to me. It’s not just a feeling that I want, it’s a joy and peace I want to give you as well.
I expect not your monetary gifts, but the gift or your attention, affection, and time. I’m not a materialistic person, and I do not desire to be showered in presents, expensive dinners, or anything else that throws money at me. I just want you to ask how my day was when I come home after work. I would like for you to listen to me when I want to talk about the things that I am passionate about. I want to know that you desire my attention and affection outside of the bedroom as well as in it. I want to spend time with you and want for you to want to spend time with me.
My future lover, I want and need for you to know that I am a tender spirit. I feel emotions big, whether good, bad, or ugly. I know that we will have moments where we don’t agree or don’t get along. That is a part of normal life. What I need from you though, is to tell me when you are upset. Sit me down and kindly tell me what bothers you and how I can fix it. I don’t need harsh words or yelling to understand you. Because love is so important to me, I will do the same with you. Communication is important and successful relationships are with people who make an honest effort to communicate. I promise to tell you when I am bothered by something and to choose kind words when I talk. I will be gentle with your heart so please be gentle with mine.
I have been through a lot in life and have a genuine appreciation for the little things that so many take for granted. I would love to have a partner that is the same way. You can know and trust that because of all I’ve been through, I will cherish you and be loyal. I will be there for your hard days to uplift and encourage you. I will be there on your good days to celebrate together. I will make you my priority and you’ll never have to doubt what you mean to me. I will be supportive of you and all that you do in life.
Through every hurt I’ve ever been through, I’ve learned about what I want and what I have to give. Please know that your efforts will not be one-sided. I will match you step for step. I will be there for you. I will love you with a fierceness that not everyone is capable of. I will love you completely, wholly, with all that I am capable of.
This is my heart. My dear future lover, I hope that when I meet you and you read this, it will make your heart happy because you desire the same. So, even though we may not have met yet, here’s to our future. May it be all that we both desire.